This is Mr. On Main. I have decided to hack Mrs. On Main’s account and post a blog of my own. I’m just kidding, I asked for her permission to publish this post. First, I want to thank you, the readers, for the support you have shown Mrs. On Main and the comments that you have posted on her blogs. I’m sure that she appreciates them very much. I’m sure most if not all of you who are reading this are aware that soon there will be a new addition to the Main Street family. The topic that I’m writing about today has been one that has been on my heart for oh I’d say 9 months and that topic is parenting.
Going through the Bible has revealed to me a lot about parenting the way that God intended parenting to be. Since God created parenting, I have a confident feeling God knows what He is talking about when parenting is brought in the Bible.
My first thought is, once I become a father to Samuel and he grows to start considering career choices, I do not want to be the parent that tells him you can be whatever you want to be. I have not found any Scripture that shows this. Don’t get me wrong, I believe it is important to support and encourage our children in the career path that they desire; however, I ultimately believe it needs to be done in a different approach. The Bible consistently talks about walking in God’s direction and will. Proverbs tell us to not lean on our understanding, rather we are told to trust in God. Jesus, shortly before being crucified prayed to God that God’s will be done not his will (Matthew 26). When Samuel comes to a point of choosing a career, I want to be there not to tell him that he can be anything he wants, rather I want to ask him, have you prayed about this direction and will this direction hinder you from following God’s will which is being obedient to His commandments, not submitting to sin, repenting when you do sin and seeking growth, and sharing the Gospel of Jesus Christ.
My second thought is on discipline. I have worked in retail for nearly 7 years now. The discipline that I have seen is quite frankly barbaric and unnecessary. I have seen parents yell and spank their kids for asking for a candy bar. I have seen parents scream at their kids because they are talking while the parent is checking out. This to me is wrong. Discipline, according to the Bible should be done in a manner that leads to godliness and becoming a disciple of Jesus Christ. In Ephesians, Paul instructs fathers to bring up their children in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. This means that as a parent I should be training Samuel to follow the commandments of God and not the commandments of men. Unfortunately, this is where society has gone oh so wrong. We discipline our children to the norms that we create and not the norms of our Creator, the Alpha and Omega, the Judge of the Universe, Jesus Christ.
Parenting, when done biblically presents a challenge. However, I believe when parenting is done right, according to the Bible, will instill a much greater joy in our children. They will be able to see that there is a God who loves them. They will see that while they are born children of wrath, Jesus Christ died for all the sins that they commit shortly after their cognitive processes begin to work in full throttle. They will see and understand that Jesus died for them not to be slaves to sin but to righteousness. They will see that the way we discipline them is train them in the pursuit of righteousness that leads to a beautiful crown of righteousness and being able to spend an eternity with the one who gave himself up for all. What a joy it will be as Christian parents when we see our children walking in the light and knowing we will get to spend eternity with them rather than the 50-70 years on earth.