As I was choosing my outfit and doing my make up for a fun day out with my sister, A thought occurred to me. Why do we wear what we wear?
My sister was supposed to come over and stay the weekend with me. And my first thought about her visit was what am I going to wear when we go out for Sushi? I realized that I was more concerned with what she thought of my outfit then about the activities we were going to participate in.
Even though we often blame men for causing us have to wear makeup and many of the other things that we have to wear. I realized that most men don’t really care that much about our clothes or our makeup. I mean don’t get me wrong most men are visual and they do want us to look nice, but if you asked them (the ones that matter) they would probably tell you that they like it best when we keep it simple.
So, why do we take so many steps to do our makeup each morning and a half hour to pick out our outfit?… Because we are comparing ourselves to other women around us and the pictures that we see on TV and the Internet.
I like fashion, and I enjoy trying new pieces together and making my style my own. But I think sometimes we wear the things we do because part of us hopes that by wearing a certain style we will be able to become more like that person that we wish we were. And this is a wrong way of looking at fashion and clothing in general. No outfit is going to change who you are. I do believe that some outfits will give you more attention than others, but that attention isn’t always a good thing.
So, my word of advice is this: when we pick out our clothes or do our makeup let’s make sure that the reason we are choosing those items is because they fit us well, make us happy, and most importantly glorify God and how he made us. I heard a quote once from a pastor’s wife who said “Clothes should be a frame for your face, not your body”. What does this mean? Our clothing should show off our personality not draw attention to our body.
Does this mean we have to wear bagging clothing so we look like a blob? Of course not! It just means that we should be careful how tight and how much certain pieces of clothing draw attention to parts of our body.
My final note is this: Don’t dress modestly just for the sake of doing it or for the sake of men. Yes, in some ways we are helping our brothers-in-Christ by not making it hard for them, but this should not be our motivation. Our motivator should be honoring God with our bodies, our minds, our actions and our words.
Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, But a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised. -Proverbs 31:30
“So why do you worry about clothing? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow: they neither toil nor spin; -Matthew 6:28
Then He said to His disciples, “Therefore I say to you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat; nor about the body, what you will put on. 23 Life is more than food, and the body is more than clothing. – Luke 12:22-23