Something that I love about my husband is that he is my best friend. We can be silly and downright stupid and laugh until our sides hurt. Friendship is such an important part of marriage, and I think that it is often overlooked.
I was blessed to know Brandon as a friend before we even started dating. That was one of the reasons why I was attracted to him because I could just be myself around him. We both have the same sense of humor which includes thinking almost everything is funny. It is a childlike humor. That is probably why we always find cartoon movies hilarious.
The nice thing about your husband being your friend as well as your lover is that some days you just aren’t feeling romantic. Now I know most of us women enjoy being romanticized, but sometimes it is nice to just put on some comfy PJs, grab a bowl of popcorn and watch a movie. Or sometimes you just want to lay on the floor and talk about life.
The main reason I am very happy that Brandon is my best friend is that the place where we are in our lives right now we don’t have many friends who live nearby. We are making new friends and many of our old friends have been awesome in making an effort to get together, but most of the time it is just the two of us. Knowing that I have my husband as a friend, helps me not to be lonely. Now don’t get me wrong there is also a special need for girlfriends, but really my husband should be my closest friend anyway.
Brandon is the person that I’m with almost 24/7, he is the person that knows me better than anyone else (even if we are still learning about each other), and he knows me on a special intimate level that no other person can understand.
After almost a year of marriage, I am realizing how important the friendship side of marriage can be. I have also realized that it takes work to cultivate that part of my marriage. I need to remember to plan time where it is not just about bills and groceries. Sometimes we need to make time to just talk or be silly with our husbands. Men as the leaders have a lot of responsibility on their shoulders, they need down time. And what better way than spending some non-serious time with their wife.
Below are Six Ways to be a Better Friend to Your Spouse:
- Have inside Jokes
You know the ones where you can say one word or phrase and you both instantly know what the other is thinking.
- Bring up memories and reminisce
Talk about the past, the good, the bad, and the awkward.
I bought Brandon some silly string for Easter and it instantly turned into a war of back and forth string throwing.
- Dance and sing together
I have always loved to sing and dance, even though I’m not that good. Brandon also enjoys dancing and singing. We like to do karaoke to our favorite songs in the car or Brandon is famous for making up song about whatever I am doing.
- Laugh together
I don’t know about you, but growing up me and my friends always watched or did things to make each other laugh. Brandon and I enjoy watching Jimmy Fallon. And Brandon loves to do impersonations with funny voices.
- Be there for each other
You are there for your friends when they need to talk, so how much more important is it to be there for your spouse. Be willing to listen or offer advise.
11 “These things I have spoken to you, that My joy may remain in you, and that your joy may be full. 12 This is My commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. 13 Greater love has no one than this, than to lay down one’s life for his friends. 14 You are My friends if you do whatever I command you. 15 No longer do I call you servants, for a servant does not know what his master is doing; but I have called you friends, for all things that I heard from My Father I have made known to you. 16 You did not choose Me, but I chose you and appointed you that you should go and bear fruit, and that your fruit should remain, that whatever you ask the Father in My name He may give you. 17 These things I command you, that you love one another. ~ John 15:11-17
Friendship is an important part of the Christian life. Christ himself had friends and the bible tells us to surround ourselves with righteous friends who will help encourage us toward Christ. Our husbands should be our closest friend as they lead us toward our savior. I am still learning daily how to be a better friend to Brandon, and I know I can with The Lords help.